Nepotism

Is there a place for nepotism in the church? Nepotism is defined as, "favoritism shown to relatives or close friends by those with power or influence."
The foundation of the word originates from the former papal practice of granting special favors to nephews or other relatives.

Nepotism is one of the concerns I hear from congregants around the country today. It has become a common practice for fathers to turn over churches to natural sons as the father grows older. As we examine the Scripture, it seems we see more negative outcomes from this practice than positive. However, we shouldn't dismiss it as wrong automatically. We need to understand that all succession to natural sons does not have to be "nepotism". By that I mean, setting a son in as the new leader may not be done because of a "special favor of the father to the son". He may be the one the Lord has chosen.

What should be the criteria to do so? We need to make sure that:

1. The son truly has a call to this ministry from the Lord.

2. He is qualified for this position. The test would be to make sure we would put anyone else in the position if they had the same qualifications. Too often sons are placed in positions because it is the easy thing to do. It gives them a job! (Never the right thing.)

3. We make sure that proper training and equipping occurs.

4. We take our time in getting them ready for the role. We don't wait too late and then try to rush them into position so we can "get out of the heat".

5. Genuine mentoring occurs. The old rule is still a good one: "You watch me do it, I watch you do it, you do it."

6. Make sure you don't show favoritism in the process. If anything, we need to make the process more difficult for sons. They need to be seen earning it! They need to be seen working hard to the point that by the time the transition happens, the people believe in it.

7. Make sure a diverse leadership team, other than family members, also believes it is the Lord's will.

8. Once it happens, Fathers, get out of the way! You need to be connected to give counsel "when asked", but the son needs to be able to bring the slow gradual change that is needed to lead the church into effective ministry for a new generation.

If the son, the heir apparent doesn't meet the criteria, face the reality of the situation for the sake of all concerned. Don't force it. God has another plan for the church as well as the son. However, if the criteria is met and "it seems good to us and the Holy Ghost", so be it. We should embrace the son without a prejudice against him.